Holly T. Ashley

Oh did I type that outloud?

Yes! I am a Proverbs 31 Woman! I Just Never Said Which One…

“Because you have listened to the voice of your wife…Cursed is the ground… In pain you shall… Thorns and thistles… By the sweat of your face… To dust you shall return.” (Gen. 4:17-19, ESV).

“Saa’Wheet!” was probably NOT what came out of Adam’s mouth…

Because Adam listened to the voice of his wife… He ended up with a cursed ground that he would have to toil for in pain in order to eat – not only would he have to work the ground but it would be hard, sweaty, hard-labor with thistles and thorns – and it wasn’t just a “time out” either – it was for the rest of his life!

Could you imagine standing there, next to your man as you listen to him being punished for something you encouraged him to do?

Eve did hand over the fruit… Yes, Adam took a bite, but how often do we (women) influence our husbands into doing things that we know are going to have adverse consequences… let alone things that are un-Biblical.

The first thing that comes to my heart and mind is not so obvious as handing my husband a piece of forbidden fruit… noooooooooo… what I do is much more subtle….

When I am stressed out to the max and my husband says, “Don’t cook, we’ll just go out,” and I know in my heart that we just simply cannot afford to go out… But by my actions, I have influenced him and if there is any chance of a happy evening, he knows that “If momma ain’t happy…”

Well, you know how that goes…

I call it the “Delilah factor.”

“If you really loved me… then you would…” (Judges 16 totally paraphrased).

Wow. The impact of a woman on her man…

I’m sure Adam thought, “Thanks a lot…. Mrs. Helper…”

The fact is that women are the helper of man. Nowhere will you read that men are to help women… with anything… It is not that we don’t need their assistance- do not get me wrong- we do. That is not what I am saying- we just have different roles and today, we are focusing on ours.

Even Jesus gave his mother a hard time when she asked him to do something about the wine at the wedding…

“Woman, what does this have to do with me?” (John 2: 3)

Of course in true motherly fashion Mary ignored the remark and moved on to let the men know: “Do whatever he tells you.” That’s the difference between our role as mother and our role as wife.

We are the helper to our husbands… period. That means we help, not hinder:

“The heart of her husband trusts in her, he will have no lack of gain…” (Proverbs 31:11).

So, let me ask you; tonight, as your husband lays his head on the pillow and God says, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife…”

What is going to follow? Will it be a blessing or a curse?

We all strive to be the “Proverbs 31 Woman,” The fact is that we ALL are the Proverbs 31 woman… We all know how Proverbs 31 ends… but do you know how Proverbs 31 begins?

“What are you doing my son? What are you doing, son of my womb? What are you doing, son of my vows? Do not give your strength to women.” (Proverbs 31:2&3).

Be a blessing.

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