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Holly believed she was saved at 10 at the invitation of a friend who took her to church… She quickly became a regular attendee, singing in the choir as well as the ensemble and even special solos.
When her parents came to church she was in high school and they relocated for the 14th time – to Phoenix, where she became actively involved in everything that was offered. By the time she was a senior, she was a youth-leader and responsible for praying with many who repented of their sins and turned their lives into redemption stories for the sake of the Gospel.
Holly went on to become the 20th Century’s Miss Arizona and Model of the year appearing in movies, TV, commercials and even a Calendar Girl…. By all accounts, she had the perfect life, perfect upbringing and model image of a Christian woman following her dreams.
But, the past sins of many quickly came from the darkness and almost consumed her.
Raised to believe that the way to keep up a Christian “house” is to sweep everything under the rug and never speak of it again.
By the time Holly was 30 years old, amidst all of her accomplishments, she had been married and divorced 3 times and was raising 2 children on her own and making a living a stripper…. Only to marry again – a drug addicted alcoholic with a wandering lust for women.
Holly’s example of “Victim to Victory” utilizes her true-life experiences of being molested and abused by family members, gang raped by neighbor boys and continuing on to a live a life without boundaries leading to abuse, pornography, failed marriages and the abortion that still breaks her heart to this day.
These are the patterns of behavior that come from the “Sins of our fathers” down family lines…Snowballing as the roll from one generation to the next – manifesting themselves in different ways as the grip the hearts of the sinners and the saints they touch…. Often hidden within the walls of the sanctuaries that we call “church,” yet used by Satan to keep others away from the redemptive love of Jesus and the saints because they feel that they are simply too dirty, used up and unworthy to qualify for such a love as is Jesus Christ.
There is victory in Jesus! But it does not come to an unrepentant heart.
Research has demonstrated what the Bible has warned for centuries – Until there is a broken and contrite heart… until one is repentant and surrenders their willful disobedience to a life of willful obedience and submission to authority – there will never be a change.
Holly realized that after a life of “playing church,” she was no more saved from the depths of the pit of hell than that of her unrepentant abusers – and she had conformed to the thoughts of the world – It was not until she completely surrendered to the cross of Christ that she experienced redemption, restoration, and began the road to recovery.
Holly T. Ashley has a masters degree in forensic psychology, is a published author, accomplished Christian speaker and equips both the sinners and the saints with Christian Domestic Violence resources and teaching her court-approved Christian Domestic Violence curriculum to those mandated by the courts, DHS, DCS, CPS and other referring agencies.
Holly is married to Pastor and evangelist, David Ashley, a/k/a “The Pastor of Pump.” Together they have founded Cross Strength Ministries and Redemption. Restoration. Recovery (R3) Domestic Violence Services and Training.
They have both offender and victim programming. And work with communities, law enforcement, schools, churches and ministries in setting up Biblical counseling/resource centers and Domestic Violence/Legal-lay counselor programs at their ministry and church locations.
As a researcher, Holly works to research family violence to influence policy and develops procedures and processes for those who work as service providers.
Holly has been involved as a grass-roots advocate in the field of abuse for well over thirty years. Her initial outline that was presented to the Arizona Governor’s office before there was ever even a law against abuse, serves as much of the foundation that you see to day in the domestic violence field. (You can read about that here)
Holly went on to become a certified counselor, educator, policy maker, teacher, writer, consultant, expert witness, jury profiler – even assisting local prosecutors with mock-trials and voir dire in high-profile violence cases.
Holly is available to speak in any venue – Please visit our topic page and our contact page or you can email us directly right here.
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